When it comes to the female orgasm, many men aren’t sure if there is a “magic button” they can push to completely arouse, thrill, and satisfy a woman. Well, there is. I am referring, of course, to the clitoris, the only organ in the female body devoted entirely to sexual pleasure. This is an area that you must know well if you want to drive her crazy and give her the best orgasm.
ESSENTIAL FACTS ABOUT THE CLITORIS
If a woman becomes sexually aroused, the clitoris fills with blood, swells in size, and becomes more sensitive. After orgasm, the clitoris will return to its normal size as the pooled blood is dispersed. If she is unable to achieve an orgasm, blood may remain in the clitoral area and cause discomfort.
The clitoris is a small, round button of pink flesh that sits above the vaginal opening. It is covered by a soft fold of tissue called the clitoral hood to protect it from excessive stimulation. Most of what we can see of the clitoris is just the tip. But it is actually a complex network of nerves that extends throughout the vagina and up to the nipples.
During arousal, the clitoris enlarges and the hood can be pulled back to reveal the tip. You can use your fingers to gently remove the cap and stimulate the clitoris directly. But this direct stimulation can be too intense for most women. Instead, they prefer stimulation through the sides or top of the clitoral hood.
Some women may prefer a light touch to the clitoris, while others may enjoy vigorous stimulation. To play it safe, you need to start with a light touch and then adjust your touch depending on your reaction. Almost all women need a period of warm-up or foreplay before they can enjoy clitoral stimulation.
Always make sure the clitoris is properly lubricated before touching it. This can be a turnoff for some women and downright painful for others. You can use their natural lubrication, saliva, or a water-based lubricant.
SOME WAYS TO STIMULATE YOUR CLITORIS
oral stimulation
This is one of the best ways to stimulate the clitoris because almost all women love to receive oral sex. You use your best foreplay techniques to turn her on as much as you can. When she starts to moan, you can go down and lick her unexposed clit until it’s fully erect. If you like intense stimulation, you can gently remove the clitoral hood to directly lick the clitoris. You continue to do this, changing the direction of your licking from side to side and up and down until she reaches orgasm.
rubbing her clit
You can stand behind her and use the palm of your hand to cup the entire area of her vulva. You can then use her fingers to gently rub your clitoris and the area along the vaginal opening using side-to-side or diagonal motions. To give her double pleasure, you can insert 2 fingers into her vagina to stimulate her G-spot while using your free thumb to massage her clitoris by drawing circles on it.
using sex toys
This is a very efficient method to make your orgasm fast. Sex toys can be a good help for you, especially if you are tired of using your mouth or hands and it takes a little longer for her to orgasm. A battery-powered vibrator or those stretchy rings with vibration capabilities that you can slip on your ‘little brother’ are some options to consider.
Stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse
This involves choosing those sexual positions that can offer you maximum clitoral stimulation. You can consider entering her from behind (doggy style) or you can use the woman on top position, where she can be facing you or away from you.
When she lies on her back, you position your pelvis at a slightly higher level than hers, so that as you penetrate her, your ‘little brother’s’ shaft presses firmly against her clitoris. With his legs wrapped around your waist, he will push up while you rock back slightly.
Another position you can try is to have your woman lie on her back with her knees bent close to her chest. After entering her, ask him to hold her legs tightly. Moving back and forth in this position will allow for maximum contact with her labia and clitoris.