If there is any word in this world that has lost its place in relationships, it is love. The world has substituted love for everything from people to money to careers to things to sex to feelings and so on. The saddest thing of all is that the replacements have crept into the church. Most relationships among God’s people are now a reflection of what is in the world rather than a replica of what is in the Word. Love itself has not changed. It is based solely on your actions, what you do, what you give, each of your acts of kindness.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son…” John 3:16 NIV
Love is verified through works of kindness. It hasn’t lost its shine, its purpose, its drive, or its mission. It has done and will always do what it was originally intended to do. In order to receive its full manifestation, we have to relinquish our own selfish, inconsiderate, and insensitive perception and definition of love and embrace the true genuine meaning of it. Because the Bible defines love as God.
“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8 NIV
The definition of love is so clear and simple, but it is people who have made it so complex. In this generation, most efforts to find love start with dreams of settling down with great biceps, great body, gorgeous hair, and that exceptionally affordable person, not realizing that this settling down mindset is more of a settling down line. with the imitation version of love. Understand that having someone handsome and beautiful with money is not the problem. The dilemma is not deciphering what prevails over the other in the relationship. They love you? Or have they fallen madly in love with what you have? This is not a gender specific error as it applies to both men and women. People have simply pieced together the meaning of love and its attributes to fit them and their own personal agenda, wondering why relationships often result in death. He understands that when it comes to building anything, especially relationships, the initial start of construction, the foundation, influences the assembly of the entire building. If the foundation of your relationship rests on something other than what is designed to be durable and withstand the ravages of heat, rain, and wind, sooner or later it will crumble. At some point, no matter how good you look or appear to others, you will go down. How your love life is built is important.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain that build it…” Psalm 127:1 KJV
What bait are you using to attract love?
On a love journey, we have a tendency to show what we most want others to like or love about us. For example, both men and women, consciously or unconsciously, tend to highlight tangible things like cars, houses, money, etc.; financial statements, physical fitness, careers, and ministry are included. Please don’t misunderstand this to suggest that all of these things don’t matter in relationships, because to some extent they do. However, in the pursuit of love, what you really need to emphasize the most are your real, genuine qualities: no makeup, no body parts, no financial status, or anything like that. Showing all these external qualities diverts attention from your true self. Therefore, lead others to love what you do best; prompting them to emphasize your body parts, careers, and financial status more than you. At the end of the day, when true love arrives, it is looking for you. This rings true in all relationships, whether seeking a spouse, friend, job, business, or even ministry relationships. You’d be surprised how many people fall more in love with the idea of marriage or wedding than with the person they marry or marry. Many relationships are held together by finances; as many are also intact as long as he or she retains their physical physique. You need to remember that the adhesive you use to hold your relationship together will stick as long as you use the right glue. If the glue you use loses its ability to stick, anything that is held together is at risk of falling apart. That said, to ensure real, genuine love in your relationships, take advantage of the glue, the love, the God who is able to make it stick and last. This is the love that is defined and generated by God.
Your Relationship with God Reflects
Your relationship with God is a direct reflection of your relationship with others. For that reason, the Bible requires that we love God first, then others as we would love ourselves. No wonder we are not ready to love others until we learn to love God. Because loving God teaches us to love ourselves and others. If your love for others is out of alignment or in the right perspective, then your relationship with God is the same: questionable. We must be careful and intentional not to choose to make a life with people who do not have a relationship with God. On the other hand, it is just as risky to seek relationships with those who love God, while you lack that area yourself. That will bring about a great deal of confusion for both involved. If you have problems loving God, you will have problems loving the people or the daughter of God. We are giving in to allowing others to love us according to the world’s standards and not the Word’s when we don’t strategize in relationships. Do not choose to accept reduced or imitation love over the abundant love that only comes from God. If that means waiting on the Lord, then wait.
“Love is patient and kind; love is not envious or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice with evil, but rejoices with the truth Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV