The husband who wishes to enjoy sex more often must be clear that his wife is not interested in any type of offer in which she loses. A man’s wife will almost always reject a seduction attempt if she somehow thinks, believes or feels that in the end result she will lose.
Now, there are endless specific ways a woman can lose. Fortunately, we can wrap all of those variations into a simple, easy-to-understand pattern, and it has to do with a wife who gives more than she receives. Here is the loss pattern:
“In a woman’s mind, any situation in which she can give physical and / or emotional pleasure without receiving in return an equal or greater level of physical and / or emotional pleasure is considered a situation of loss that should be avoided at all costs.” .
At first, this pattern may seem so broad that it is not very useful. But, after some more thought, you will begin to see its usefulness and the beauty of its inherent flexibility.
As a husband becomes better and better at basing his seduction within the framework of this pattern, he will become a better and better seducer, seducing his wife more and more often.
Let’s start on the negative side. Examine the following list of examples where men commonly invoke the loss pattern, causing their wife to avoid and reject their future sexual advances:
1. A husband who thinks only of himself and his pleasure before, during and after the sexual act. You do not realize or care if she likes the experience or if she is really stimulated or turned on. He only cares about jumping and taking care of himself.
2. A husband who does not realize that his wife is uncomfortable or suffering during sexual intercourse. Worse yet, he is aware of his discomfort or pain, but continues on because he only cares about cumming.
3. A husband regardless of whether his wife could become pregnant or be at health risk. A fertile woman takes the risk of having to spend the next 20 (or more) years raising and caring for a child each time she has sex. Additionally, medical science tells us that a woman is at higher risk than a man for contracting an STD or developing a sexual health problem such as yeast infection.
Husband, take a few minutes to carefully compare this list with your own actions and behaviors in the bedroom. Consider it carefully because most men think it does NOT apply to them, while your wife says it DOES apply to them.
The fact is, the husband who is guilty of any of these inconsiderate rapes (and there are many more that could be listed) will soon find that his wife resists most or even all of his sexual advances.
She will resist because he presents her with an offer where he “wins” and she “loses.” Guess what? No wife is interested in that kind of offer.
Now, let’s consider the “opportunity” aspect of the loss pattern. Of special importance is the phrase “physical and / or emotional pleasure”. This is especially important because it gives the husband multiple opportunities and ways in which he can seduce his wife.
Ideally, a woman will obtain maximum levels of pleasure, both physically and emotionally, from a sexual encounter. However, given life’s stresses, responsibilities, and limitations, this is not always possible.
In general, a woman’s source of pleasure can alternate between the physical aspect and the emotional aspect of making love. It all depends on what’s going on in your life, what external influencers you can find, where you are in your cycle (if you’re a menstruating woman), her focus, and a myriad of other factors that can move you away from you. aspect to the other.
(Outside of the norm, there are some women who have an underdeveloped sexual response, and therefore their pleasure comes primarily from the emotional aspect of making love. At the other extreme, there are women who have become emotionally withdrawn and therefore Therefore, they only allow themselves to feel the physical aspect of making love).
So again, the opportunity for the seductive husband is that there are multiple ways that he can pleasure his wife.
Perhaps one of the best examples of this concept that I have come across is the story of a woman who sustained a back injury that permanently paralyzed her from the waist down. The net effect was that she could not feel anything during intercourse, yet this woman wanted sex and enjoyed having sex with her husband. Now how could that be? It was simply because her husband made it a very emotionally satisfying experience for her every time they made love.
This brings us to the Win-Pattern corollary that every husband should firmly implant in his mind if he is to successfully seduce his wife. The pattern is:
“A woman will want to give physical and / or emotional pleasure whenever she knows that she can get an equal or greater level of physical and / or emotional pleasure in return.”
Let me finish this. The husband who becomes very good at seducing his wife based on the Winning Pattern will eventually achieve a sex life similar to that of Pavlovia. Just as Ivan Pavlov was able to ring a bell and his dogs began to salivate because they were waiting to be fed, this type of husband can ring the “sex bell” and his wife will begin to desire sex because he hopes to obtain physical and / or emotional pleasure. To some, this may seem a bit crude, but since it is a win for both husband and wife, that makes it good.